In stable relationships, couples share equal power and balance so that both parties have authority on areas they agree and disagree on. However, in many relationships one wields more power over the other and that can cause a problem. This blog is about how to balance power between couples with the help of reflexology techniques. And this will be the last part of the couples’ reflexology series.
In traditional marriages the husband is the breadwinner and takes care of the important things and the wife would have the domestic responsibilities and the kids. In modern marriages or popular live-in relationships, the power role gets divided differently based on time, interest, and the natural talents of the two people. Power in relationships is always shifting, so either one or the either feels submissive at times or resentful.
This is when reflexology comes into the picture because it provides a good way of balancing these powershifts. In reflexology, both sides get to play the role of the giver and receiver /dominant and submissive/healer and heal-ee. It is a great activity to eliminate competition between a couple. When a couple takes a break to do reflexology treatment on one another, they are truly and equally partners. At this point, it does not matter who is better at what, kids, car, career, domestic tasks etc.
Couples’ reflexology techniques for feeling equals
Similar to, in previously recommended sessions, sit with your partner facing each other with your legs laying inside the other’s. Treat each other to a long session of relaxation techniques and then start to work on each other’ feet with regular reflexology techniques (see previous Couple’s reflexology blogs in more details and a YouTube video link in the Sources section). Simultaneously work on the same foot and the same points with your partner and for power balancing one partner is setting the order on the first foot and the other partner will set the order on the other foot. So, one of you is the leader once and then the other, in a shared leadership.
You can tell your partner to visualise an activity you like doing together, hiking along a beautiful country trail when the spring is in full form and the flowers are blooming everywhere or skiing together on a stunning snow-covered mountain where the sun is shining, and the sky is sparkling blue.
Reflexology is an act of love.
Professional reflexologists’ intention is paramount in the healing process, because their best sessions are given in love. People who receive reflexology speak about it in terms of love too. And when a couple's reflexology is implemented in partnerships, their strong love for one another more than compensate for lack of experience in reflexology.
People who love each other are blessed twice, not only a person loves them but also takes care of them and reflexology can be a great part of both loving and caring.
If you and your partner would like to pick up a few reflexology techniques, please come for a few sessions together or separately. I would be delighted to show you both, how you could do couple’ reflexology on each other (prices on the Home page or get in touch to discuss). On my Home page here, click on the ‘Get in touch’ button that will take you to my email address.
I am looking forward to hearing from you
Best,
Klara
Sources
Couples Foot Massage Technique, How to Massage Feet & Dual Reflexology Therapy Demonstration, PsycheTruth, Melissa La Munyon https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZEoQ6pl9-M
The Reflexology Handbook, Laura Norman & Thomas Cowan, 1988
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